In 1994, during the civil war in Rwanda, Immaculée lost her parents and brothers in terrible violence called ‘Rwandan genocide’. Tragically, the people who killed her family were her own neighbours. She would live with an extreme angry. Her desire for revenge never truly disappeared.
Years later, after peace returned to the country, one of the men responsible for her family’s death was released from prison. He came to see Immaculée, asking for her forgiveness. For Immaculee, old memories and pain rushed back, as if the tragedy were happening right now.
For a few quiet moments, she felt as though every emotion in her heart was about to explode. Then she realized a profound truth: it wasn’t the tragedy itself that had been destroying her all these years, but the bitterness she carried inside. Right at that moment, she decided to let go of her desire for revenge and chose unconditional forgiveness. She walked up to him and said, “What you did was awful, but I refuse to live with hate in my heart. Yes. From the bottom of my heart, I forgive you.”
At that exact moment, true healing began. Not only did the man cry tears of relief, but the heavy burden of sorrow and fear that Immaculée had carried for years was finally lifted. Their relationship was restored, and true peace began to heal the village.
When tragedies or painful events occur, it is only natural to carry the hurt for a long time. Without even realising it, we become trapped in those memories. When that happens, the past comes alive in the present, making us relive nearly the same horrors and heartaches over again.
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